How to Show Up
and Be Present
A few simple principles to help everyone - including you - have an extraordinary evening.
"The quality of your conversations is directly proportional to how fully you arrive. Leave the outside world outside - and discover who's sitting across from you."
Before You Arrive
Come with curiosity, not an agenda
This isn't a networking event or a speed-dating exercise. You don't need to impress anyone. Come genuinely curious about the people you'll meet.
Arrive on time - or a few minutes early
The whole table waits for everyone before starting. Arriving late disrupts the rhythm of the evening for everyone else. We suggest arriving 5 minutes early.
Let go of your "usual self" for the evening
You don't need to be the person you are at work or with your friends. This is a rare chance to explore a version of yourself that's a little more open, more honest, more curious.
The Phone-Free Table Policy
Phones go face-down (or in your bag) for the duration of the meal. This is the single most impactful thing we ask of you. The magic of these evenings lives in undivided attention.
At the Table
Ask questions that invite real answers
Skip "What do you do?" as an opener. Try "What's something you've been genuinely excited about lately?" or "What made you interested in coming to an event like this?"
Listen to understand, not to respond
When someone is talking, give them your full attention. Resist the urge to jump in before they've finished. The best conversationalists are the best listeners.
Dominating the conversation
Be aware of how much airtime you're taking. If you notice you've been speaking for a while, pause and invite someone else in: "I'd love to hear what you think about this."
Pull quieter guests into the conversation
If someone at the table hasn't said much, don't put them on the spot - but do direct a gentle question their way. "We haven't heard from you on this - what's your take?"
Controversial politics or divisive topics
Deep conversations are encouraged - but deliberately divisive political debates are not what this space is for. Keep it thoughtful, personal, and connective.
Wrapping Up
Exchange contacts only if you genuinely want to
There's no obligation to connect on LinkedIn or swap numbers. But if you felt a real spark with someone - go for it. This is what the evening is for.
Share your feedback with us
We're a small, passionate pilot program. Your honest thoughts - what worked, what didn't - genuinely shape how we improve the experience for future guests. We read every response.